During the 1800's it was absurd for women to live alone hence Paul D's concern about Sethe and Denver living alone without a man in the house. This  Now days not having a man in the house hold is normal. Sethe's hoe was haunted by a ghost that did not leave until a man came into the picture. I feel that this is saying y our home will be out of order until you find a man to put it in order. This could be interpreted in two ways, the first way is that your significant other has not matured into a man yet but he is still a boy, and your home wont be in order until he grows up. The second way is that a woman can not live in peace without a man by her side everything will be in chaos until she finds one.